Regarding marriage, infidelity, and love.

Recently, the energy of Pisces and Aquarius is very strong, which is perfect for writing about emotional relationships.

There is a news about a politician in Toronto who resigned due to an affair. I don’t know much about it, but I have many thoughts about it anyway.

First of all, marriage is definitely a responsibility, indicating that you are a mature adult who can take care of the person you love and have common goals. Both sides learn from each other’s love, respect, and appreciation and move towards a better life in the future.

People always consider marriage as a perfect endpoint in life, but many of them have never realized that marriage is actually a stage in life where more learning and growth is required. There are similar examples as well, such as when people mistakenly believe that college graduation marks the end of learning when they are young, or when they think that finding a job means they can retire, or that there is very little to do after retirement.

The world is never short of things to explore and surprises, it’s just that people are more willing to find all sorts of excuses for their own laziness or stubbornness.

Sometimes it takes courage to admit that you simply don’t want to do more and just want to take a break. It may look unpopular and disliked by others, but no one knows better than you what choices you should make during this stage.

Therefore, if you want to make some changes in your life or simply take a break, as long as your life allows it, you should express it bravely, not lose yourself under the gaze of others.

Since different situations can occur in life, it is possible for marriage, composed of two people, to change.

No one understands your feelings in a marriage better than you, even if he or she is your partner. Thus, good communication is the foundation of a complete marriage. I would like to emphasize “complete,” not “perfect.”

Marriage exists in our world not because it is perfect, but because it allows for more life experiences for human beings.

The process of marriage involves growth, emotion, and responsibility. No matter the situation, it may be a life experience you have yet to go through.

But there are no unchanging truths in this world. The experience or process of marriage is neutral, even though the presentation of different marriage relationships on the earth is due to the agreements of different ethnic groups.

The feeling of love may have no answer, but marriage is a part of human society, written into law codes, so marriage must have causes and consequences in this world.

Is the infidelity of one side in marriage the reason for one-sided causes? No. But the cause is definitely a change by one side that the other side did not discover or did not take positive action. Or both sides changed, but both also pretended that nothing was wrong and continued their own lives.

Many people only care about the gains in marriage, deliberately ignoring the responsibilities and problems that need to be faced when the relationship ends. It may also be that humans are easily habituated and gradually ignore things or people they already know well. It may also be a lack of understanding of the relationship between the two in marriage, just getting married for the sake of marriage. There are many other reasons, but all of these may lead to the appearance of a third party.

Therefore, infidelity cannot be caused by a simple reason.

Because they are politicians, public figures, regardless of how strong their work ability is, they will have to resign because of an extramarital affair? Is it a kind of social pressure? However, I don’t approve of infidelity within marriage either, because it’s a form of dishonesty to a certain extent. He should at least handle his own emotional issues. But it’s said that his wife is a very capable person with a certain social status. Sometimes it feels sad for such a strong relationship between the two, because with the increase in work pressure and age, two people who originally had common goals will gradually feel further apart?

Even if ordinary people encounter dissatisfaction in marriage, they probably want to seek help outside, but in fact, there is very little help, because the main reason is that they don’t really understand themselves and the other person, and there is also personal choice. Some people just can’t let go and don’t want to, what are you supposed to do to help?

And going back to a basic problem, people deliberately forget the passion they talked about when they were in love when they get married, so they can keep themselves from pursuing others after they get married. But in reality, people also forget to talk about love with their partners. When both sides become like family members to each other, there is no hope. And with the passage of time, people will progress or stay the same. If both sides move forward, or one side moves forward and the other does not, the two sides will have different thoughts.

So it’s really not possible to go on, then how to communicate well is really important. Regardless of the outcome, it is important to face the problem sincerely and genuinely.

If you and your partner really cannot be each other’s strongest support in the rest of each other’s lives, can’t grow together, and can’t continue to love each other, you must sincerely and genuinely tell each other thank you and appreciate each other for accompanying you on this important journey in life. If you have children, communicate sincerely with them as well, and thank them for being your children and making each other the most important family members.

Separation is not the main solution, but in an unworkable and uncommunicative love, there is no need to deceive each other and pretend to keep it going. But also don’t resolve it with any form of violence, because there is no need to harm each other. Unless you are an abusive fanatic… but even then, tell your partner directly, you never know if they might enjoy accommodating your interests too, haha.

I really hope everyone can clearly understand their feelings and sincerely face their lives, including love.